9 Ways On How To Avoid Sibling Rivalry (With PHOTOS)

Sibling rivalry occurs most commonly among adults, teenagers or even among children. However the extent

Getting Together

HAVING a houseful of teens can be a hell-of-a-life for you as parents and also at the same time, a paradise on earth. It all depends on
1. How you've trained them
2. How they get together among themselves.

A Mummy's Touch

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A HOME without a good mum is a dark and stale home. Kids grow up with the absence of maternal features in them. The role of the mummy in a family begins at the eve of wedding and ends on the death bed.
This simply implies that a woman is the pillar of her home. The children's character, skillfulness, responsibility and manners dwell squarely on the tough shoulders of a mother.
My mum is a disciplinarian. Fail to wash the dishes and it's hell for you. Back then my mum would keep well cut nice and lanky canes, you did something bad and she makes no hesitation to tear your flesh with it. At times she waits till its all dark, when you might have dreaming of milk and cheese, then the next is "swoosh!!!" the lanky cane lands on your body. The next minute you are up. She gives a brief rundown of the offence you've committed, and the next minute she's pointing at the floor, indicating with her short thick first finger that you should lie flat on the cold floor. Your cries or pleas won't make her bath an eyelid, it would only irritate her. Her floggings are incessant and unending. You dare not repeat such crime again, and of course if you did, she's always ready for you, she was ever ready.

That is my mum for you like it or not, Having a mother's presence looming over the home, spotting some tiny dust particles here, pulling out some dirty clothings there and all that brings and make a home tidy, neat and splendid.

THE RIGHT MUM

ITS one thing being a mum, its another thing being the right mum. Male kids are very fond of their mum than the girls. They love her looks, smile, love and care. They cheerish her existence more than female kids. That's a real fact. Its a vice versa stuff, while the boys go more to their mum, the girls feels great with the "charming dad". YOU CAN be that dream mum of every guy. All you have to do is play your cards well and you are at it!

Look at these practical steps :

1. Avoid partial love - No one likes to be loved less
2. Be neat, charming and caring - Your kids won't be proud of you if you go about in rags and dirty dresses all in the name of trying to make ends meet.
3. Don't be over-protective and unecessarily suspicious - If you cut limit for your kids' freedom, make sure it's worth it. A caged kid would always turn sour when he/she actually gains freedom. The suspicious character is always a mood killer. When you poke your nose, and blow smokes when no fire is, the result is always unattractive. Keep the suspicious character in-check. Take your kids at their words. Try to make sure you let them know that you have absolute trust in them.
4. Teach them morals - A spoilt child normally attracts abuses to his/her parents especially the mother, on the other hand a good, well-mannered child always attracts praises to his/her parents, also especially the mother. You might have often heard words like "You really sucked mother's breast.." "You have a good mother, or "your mother train you well well" (pidgin). Never spare the rod if the occasion demands it. Never carry over grieviances to your kids or spouse.
5. Spend quality time with your kids - Get to know each other well. Be a great mum. Try to become intimate with inasmuch as you know the limits.
6. Teach your kids hardwork - For we Africans, manual hardwork really pays big time. Teach your little kids to be strong and hardworking. Don't pamper or give them room for idleness. Teach them to cook, wash, sweep and do domestic chores. Never say its too early. The society will reject your child if he/she turns out to be a lazy pampered spoilt brat!
7. Above all you need God - Child training and family building lies on your shoulder as a mother. Your kids or even your husband (if he's not ideal) may not help you in building it up, but God can, and will surely help you. The bible says a wise woman buildeth her house, but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. You can't be that foolish mother! I can see you smiling now! God MUST be in the picture for your spouse and kids to have and feel a mummy's touch.

The Father Figure

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THIS is now your family. The only people you know very well. Your first friends and people in your life. This is your very life - your family, whether its ideal or not.

The Typical Family

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INTRODUCTION

THIS is my first post on Blogger. Am a voracious blogger. When it gets in my head i can open lots of blogs that would always land me in the trouble of how to manage all at once.